We get at least 4 of these a week...
All of them saying essentially the same thing "We forgot to tell you..." insert bullshit bad news here. The last one was, I believe a 6-month extension in the HPRP program because they decided she wasn't doing the Steps because she is not a christian enough to Let Go; Let god. Remember that one?
But it is all within their rights, lets not forget that my B was EXTORTED into signing this so-called contract with them if only to retain her rights, otherwise they would have yanked her ability to earn a living,. It's like signing a contract consenting to RAPE. What type of organization would have this contract as their capstone? Well, I'll tell you:
An organization the has these people in it
DWIGHT GAMMONS,HPRP
LESLIE COLLINS and
CAROLYN BATCHELOR
Sorry about leaving you off the list for so long CAR! Don't know what I must have been (hint: tumor). It is kind of a shame that you have been overlooked. I have searched out info on your background and in my assessment you should have the proper tools to make this thing (HPRP) work. What happened? Did they neuter you? Did they take away 14 years of therapy work at Birmingham Maple Clinic and replace it with an ADMINISTRATIVE mindset?
Or--Were you just another GAMMONS? That doesn't sound right, having an MSW is way more committed than a DO ADDICTIONIST, it shows that at least at first you had compassion, when you decided on the field, what happened? Do you practice or even remember practicing the art that you learned while going for your masters degree?
I wake up in mornings with bad headaches, but on the mornings when i need to blog to you Fine Folks, I put off taking my MD (not a DO GAMMONS, wouldn't be caught dead with your St John's Wort voodoo bullshit) )prescribed meds only because this is more satisfying.
But I digress: Here's hoping that you all have disappointments today!
One for the road!
Peace in his time!
Want me to go teach them what Christ was about? Obviously you know it's the words they want to hear, that God is some old blue eyed white dude sitting on a throne of gold with millions of angels standing in choir robes humming Beethoven's Ode to Joy who supports the weaponization of modern day Israel so they can kill all those Palestinian bastards.
ReplyDeleteNow it's at the point where even if B went in and said she had a "come to Jesus" moment they would give her even more shit because they wouldn't be able to believe her (even if it were truth).
So what they want is the acknowledgement of a "higher power" and a lack of ability to control any addiction without the help of that higher power. If they want that whole washed in the blood of the lamb thing, there will never be any pleasing them but...
Your wife, the sister of my friend, unless I am mistaken DOES have a higher power that she fully and firmly believes in. Her family, you, her kids, her brother and sister. To her you all are her heaven and earth and to quote Jesus..."know ye not that the kingdom of heaven is within you"
As you are finding out in the cruelest of ways, the religious people really have no clue as to who or what the spirit of creation is. *shrug* they are no different than any flavor of radical in any religion.
Through an admission of addiction and asking for help to get past the addiction B offered them power over her, the key then is finding out how to take that power back. If she has stopped using and gotten past the physical cravings it is time for her to lawyer up---not hire an attorney but she did go to law school, passed it and all that right? Time to argue it our in a lawyerly way.
My next move just to move the process forward would be to ask all of these impediments to completing their program a single simple question with an agreement at the end.
If they can conclusively prove that there is a God as they understand it to be she will do what she needs to do to satisfy their need to hear her say the words that she believes in him.
I understand this is a time in her life where hyper emotion is playing on her heart and not because of these idiots so much as thinking of you and the kids. But she has to when in their presence put her higher power aside and force them to argue for the validity of their higher power as they understand it to be. Her first COUNTER argument should be the one you made already. That whether she says the words they want r not but rather the longer they keep her clawed into their established form of witchcraft the more money they make and that to her it looks as if their true higher power is green paper with numbers on it.
There is no reason a nonbeliever in a god society made can not argue logically and rationally spirituality and what that is. I assure you it is not an argument they will be able to make. They will talk of belief, your wife on the other hand will talk of faith. Of which she fell from the same tree as her sister did she has great amounts of even if she does not know it---yet.
"If they can conclusively prove that there is a God as they understand it to be she will do what she needs to do to satisfy their need to hear her say the words that she believes in him."
ReplyDeleteThere is a reason I pick certain people to be my friends for life. Usually, it is because they are smarter than me yet still like me. (It's an incredibly odd and rare combination, I swear.)
This was one of the comments (that could very well be re-posted as an actual post, not just a comment - yes, I've been known to do that to TWM) that made me go "man I love the walking man."
Very well written, as usual. And many excellent points! Thank you, twm.
(And fyi - yes, she is far beyond the physical addiction - they keep testing her though, despite all the clean tests. At some point though, as an alcoholic myself, I sometimes think "shit, you guys would DRIVE me to relapse. What are you going to do? Drive her crazy enough TO USE? And than say "told ya so!" Fuckers.)
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ReplyDeleteTWM- Thank you for the excellent post, and Sarah capping it off with the word Fuckers is the cherry on top.
DeleteIt seems to be the goal, they are laying traps adding stress and pressure under which they would expect an addict to reuse. This all based on the feeling GAMMONS had back when he had told her that if she were working the steps the thought of my passing would not bother her, about the same time he suggested she go away for two weeks directly after she told him about her not believing in his god.
Let's all thank whichever higher power we choose to that I have found some grace and gratitude in my life.
Thank you both for your support,